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Oct 17Liked by Joanna Schroeder

Re how to deal with a young person who “broke a rule” and became a victim of sexual assault: When I worked as a rape crisis counselor and a parent was losing their minds, raving about the broken rule(s), I asked, What is the punishment you give when she [sneaks out/drinks alcohol/whatever rule was broken]? The parent would answer with some heat: grounded, take away prized possession, etc. and I said, Then do that. But the punishment is not to be sexually assaulted, so let’s separate those two things right now. And the child needed to hear the same thing.

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Most excellent and accurate.

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Joanna, you've done a remarkable job, dealing with one of the most difficult topics in existence! I taught two workshops in jail for domestic violence offenders, who are in a very unique program in the California prison system, and as a teacher of the topic, let me say how slippery the slope is from those who demonstrate acceptable behavior, and how quickly it can shift. A valuable skill is understanding micro facial expressions, so you know when someone is lying to you and even children can learn this.🙏🙏🙏🙏

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