I'd say the idea that it's normal for anyone to be happy all the time is a distortion of reality. It's true that some people do have a more cheerful or despondent baseline disposition, on the other hand. But happiness isn't a goal or a gold-standard, it's a state of being consequent on variables that vary from person to person. Not something to be pursued.
This is the comment of the week, Tom. Thank you so much.
I do tell parents of little kids who ask my specific advice on something, "If you've thought about the best way to do it for your family, you're probably making the right choice". T
here are very few objective truths in parenting and they're like, "Don't hit your kids" and "Make sure they are in car seats and wear seatbelts" and "try your best to not let them be *ssholes to other people".
I do think they'll be angry at you and likely in therapy over what you do regardless, as you say, at some point. The best we can do is apologize for what they consider mistakes and love them as best we can.
I'd say the idea that it's normal for anyone to be happy all the time is a distortion of reality. It's true that some people do have a more cheerful or despondent baseline disposition, on the other hand. But happiness isn't a goal or a gold-standard, it's a state of being consequent on variables that vary from person to person. Not something to be pursued.
This is the comment of the week, Tom. Thank you so much.
I do tell parents of little kids who ask my specific advice on something, "If you've thought about the best way to do it for your family, you're probably making the right choice". T
here are very few objective truths in parenting and they're like, "Don't hit your kids" and "Make sure they are in car seats and wear seatbelts" and "try your best to not let them be *ssholes to other people".
I do think they'll be angry at you and likely in therapy over what you do regardless, as you say, at some point. The best we can do is apologize for what they consider mistakes and love them as best we can.